Defining the Folly of My Ways

I rediscovered something important today and hope I don’t forget it this time. Human nature welcomes helping others and I’m no different. Last year, I decided to mentor someone whom I thought showed both studied and innate talent. That was my first mistake. Assumptions are illusions and I bought into mine, which was a costly investment taking far more patience, time and money than I had ever anticipated.

At first it felt rewarding to see the protégé’s improvement but slowly these improvements began to transform the protégé into a egocentric. I dismissed the decaying association after considering the hardship imposed upon the protégé at one time, and then I tolerated it as the protégé’s ego grew bigger and bigger “buying into its own press,” as the saying goes. Of course, there is always a boundary that is crossed, and mine was finally crossed closing the curtain forever.

My two lessons? Don’t assume anything. As a line in a TV show once pointed out, “It makes an ass out of u and me.” And the second lesson, if you want to play in my sand pile, you had better bring your own bucket because I don’t intend to hand out buckets to anyone again.

I was wrong to do it the first time years ago and certainly wrong this time. I was wrong because I created the rules, made erroneous assumptions, and turned an otherwise nice person into a arrogant jerk who didn’t have the business or cultural discernment to carry the bucket in the first place. President Clinton had a better idea when he once asked two Eastern European countries that had been warring, “How can we help you along your way?” Asking another to propose the agenda is a lot different than assuming one!

Energy Singularities

Energy singularities have taken on a life of their own so to speak, merged with others like their own kind, and depend upon us to validate their existence. They are not first cause, but imitators of it and why we can dissolve unwanted influences permanently. At one time or another, everyone is influenced by these so called entities, from the most benign and seemingly innocent thoughts on a down day to rank evil found in darkened envy, hate, molestation, incest, greed, murder, self-mutilation, lying, stealing, self-aggrandizement, vanity, or alcohol, sex and drug addictions.